From all the experiences I’ve encountered and the learning I’ve put myself through, my firmly held view is that there are four crucial steps to get yourself from A to B. Yes you can subdivide these and make it all more complicated but there is no need. This post maps out these four steps and subsequent posts will go into more detail explaining each.
So what are the four steps. They are:
Really, they are self evident but let’s walk through them all the same. Desire comes first; and, this is about you as a person and just what you really want to achieve. A desire for you maybe very different from somebody else’s. You have to spend time determining just what these are for you by drilling down into your mind and what lays behind your values – what you hold important. Desires that are grounded on helping your fellow man will usually have a lot more strength to them than just a want to “make money”. Helping others etc and getting an appropriate financial reward for that help is a far stronger desire than simply wanting to be rich.
With the desires determined the next step is to visualise ones world with these desires achieved. This visualisation needs to be as clear and as detailed as it can possibly be. Visualise this new personal world in the mind in all its detail. It is a positive and uplifting experience. And, all importantly the subconscious starts to see this visualised world as reality and works continually to bring it about.
With this dramatic change in ones mindset an expectation starts to build that what you have visualised will indeed happen. These thoughts of positive expectation need to be encouraged through continually repetition of the visualisation and restatement of ones desires. Just as with the visualisation step here with expectation again the subconscious works to make this all reality now.
And then finally to the forth step – action. This is the corner stone of behaviour congruency – taking action and doing new or different behaviours. Only actions or behaviours have outcomes… …change behaviours and thereby change outcomes. The more closely you make your behaviours congruent to your goals the faster and more completely you’ll achieve them. This is the essence, indeed the beauty of behavioural congruency. It is had to fail if you do it thoroughly.
As said at the beginning of this post these four steps will be expanded upon over the next number of posts.
The whole purpose of this site is to help you achieve your ambitions and to lead a fulfilled life. And, the route to that is by learning the skills and mindset to take you there. Learn those and then emulate the behaviours of people who have been successful in achieving the same goals and you will get there. The closer and the more fully you emulate their behaviour, so. will you more fully and quickly achieve your goal. The theory is simple – but not easy. Continue reading
We all have an inner voice that is constantly influencing our feelings. These feelings intern affect our actions and behaviours. So, as you can see control of this inner voice is crucial if you want to achieve your goals. Clearly, this inner voice can be either negative or positive in its influence. Therefore, its affect can be profound either way.
Taking a step back… Remember we all move away from or find excuses to avoid pain Continue reading
Being clear about what you are trying to achieve by having written down goals is the first all important step. Action then must follow. This post looks at how to do drive action.
The units of time that are particularly important are: weeks and days. So, at the start of each week you review your plans for each of your main goals and decide Continue reading
The nineteenth century American poet and philosopher Henry David Thoreau made a masterful comment about achieving one’s dreams. He said…
“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours.”
This is a magnificent sentence Continue reading
Our goals can only be achieved through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act.
There is no other route to success.
SIR EDMUND HILLARY
This is one of those very special quotations that is worth committing to memory. Continue reading
The brain will take you, in terms of your achievements and circumstances, in the direction of your thoughts. We all need to be very clear about this. So, if you allow your brain to be cluttered with negativity, fear or the thought that you cannot really do what you have set as your goal – it will be the case that you will not get there. The external factors will have a bearing Continue reading
The question that puzzles many of us is how can it be that individual “A” starts a business and makes it a roaring success; while individual “B” starts the same business and it fails.
This question fascinates me and I have for a long time studied it in order to uncover the underlying Continue reading
All of us use a diary, whether it is electronic or paper format, to a greater or lesser extent. Importantly, you can use your diary to very effectively drive your actions – crucial to achieving behavioural congruence.
We’ll go into more detail in a moment, but essentially Continue reading
I get asked a lot about this one….
How do you keep yourself motivated and focused?
Everybody, and I do mean everybody, will have days when problems crowd in upon them and there is a feeling of overwhelm; and, goals seem far away and in fact receding. But there are strategies to combat this negative feeling; which when deployed consistently vastly reduce Continue reading